The sad truth is, we're probably a mere few decades away from seeing the storyline of I, Robot play out IRL. But until the android apocalypse, we might as well make the best of artificial intelligence. So here it is: LEVEL's new advice column, We Asked a Bot, the place where your pressing concerns and queries are treated with a tenderness and care befitting of a machine learning algorithm.
Dear Level,
I'm divorced and dating. Recently, a woman I've started a relationship with called me "Daddy" while we were having sex. Specifically she said, "Oh, Daddy, don't stop!" My ex never called me that and since I'm the father of a son, the only context I've ever heard "Daddy" was as a parent. I was able to complete the task at hand, but felt pretty conflicted about what happened. Should you want your wife or girlfriend to call you "Daddy?" What about "Papi?" Am I weird for thinking it's gross? Please advise before I have to start answering to "Dearest Father" or "Pop" in bed.
—Daddy, Apparently, in Dallas
<We asked Perplexity, a search engine that's not too different from ChatGPT, to answer this question in the voice of a sexually knowledgeable older person. Let's see how Perplexity did:>
Dear Daddy, Apparently, in Dallas,
It's great that you reached out to discuss this topic. It's not uncommon for people to feel conflicted when a partner uses terms like "Daddy" during intimate moments. It's important to remember that sexual preferences and fantasies vary widely among individuals. Some may find it arousing, while others may not.
When it comes to terms like "Daddy" or "Papi," it's ultimately a personal preference. There's no universal rule about whether you should or shouldn't enjoy being called such names. It's essential to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and boundaries. Understanding each other's perspectives can help navigate these situations more comfortably.
As for feeling weird or gross, it's important to recognize that these reactions are valid, and everyone has their own comfort levels. It might be helpful to explore the underlying reasons for your feelings, which could be related to your role as a father. Seeking guidance from a professional, such as a therapist, can also provide valuable insights.
In the end, what matters most is mutual respect and consent in any intimate relationship. It's perfectly okay to communicate your preferences and concerns with your partner. Remember, open communication is key to a healthy and fulfilling intimate life.
Best regards,
Perplexity
<It could have been a lot worse! Perplexity answered the question with good information and no shaming in any direction. As a follow-up, we asked what kinds of names Daddy might want to use in response. Here's Perplexity's response.>
Some names that can be used for women in response to "Daddy" include:
- Baby Girl: This term can be a sweet and affectionate alternative to "Daddy" for women.
- Papi Chula: "Papi Chula" is a Spanish term of endearment that can be used to convey a similar sentiment to "Daddy" in a more gender-appropriate way.
- Mami: "Mami" is another Spanish term that can be used to address a woman in a similar manner to "Daddy" but in a more suitable way.
- Baby: "Baby" is a classic and widely used term of endearment that can be used for women in a similar context.
It's important to note that the appropriateness of these terms may vary depending on individual preferences and cultural backgrounds. Open communication with your partner is key to understanding what is comfortable and respectful for both of you.
<Not bad! Just to make double sure that we don't let Daddy make a huge, relationship-ending mistake, we asked Perplexity, "He should definitely not call her 'Daughter,' though, right? That's too far, correct?" Perplexity responded.>
The term "Daughter" is generally not appropriate in intimate contexts and can be perceived as crossing a boundary. It's important to choose terms of endearment that are mutually comfortable and respectful for both partners. Open communication and mutual understanding of each other's preferences are key in any relationship.
<Agreed! Score one for AI, which seems to know a whole lot about sex and sex talk. Maybe that's just the dawg in Perplexity. Until next time!>
LEVEL consulted Perplexity.ai for the aforementioned text. Need advice, insight, or just want to troll a chatbot? Hit us up with your questions at info@levelman.com. We'll feed it to the robots and see what it spits back out. (Disclaimer: YMMV!)